mothering, counselling, personal growth, domestic violence, counseling, stay at home Mum, writing, reading, books, children, personal development

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Unlist me!

Here's something that no-one who knows the moving, living me will be surprised by.

I don't do lists.

Nope. Not ever.

Here's another thing. I love you listers. I'm married to one. My besties are predominately listers. I'm balanced by you, I admire you. I try from time to time to emulate you.

However. I'm just not you.

The envy I have for you is the kudos that listing attracts. Those numbers lined up in order. That promise of productivity, and action, and order. I love it. I do envy it.

But only in others. Drawing near to a real list fills me with discomfort. My tummy draws up tight, and my breathing becomes shallow and nervy. A tight band starts to form across my temples.

Here's another thing. Where listers have lists and the promise of order, I have piles. I've already brought that one out in the open. Yup! I have piles. And over time, and lots of deep scrutiny, I've grown to be Ok with it. I have piles! There! I'm Ok with it, because the piles mostly help me. Little jobs sit around the place, and when energy and location and planets align, then a job gets done.

Lists for some. Piles for me.

I'm not too troubled by it. Mostly everything gets done around here. Sometimes well, sometimes not. I'm probably the only person I know who finishes Christmas shopping each year in April. Ok. I was a bit late this year. It was May. I don't usually broadcast that, cos, well, being in a tangle at Christmas time is kinda culturally normal. Just for today, however, I will share it.

I find I am, generally, more energised when I'm in a fluff and a bit of a dither. Things get done. Christmas even gets done. Super Early.

So, unlist me!


  1. A unlist post! Honestly, I do piles too, I am pilesofwashing.blogspot afterall! I write lists but I rarely refer to them again. Thanks for Rewinding x

  2. The mere thought of life without lists throws my brain into a spin! I make lists about what lists I have to make lol :)

  3. i have lists but i refuse to number them (subconsciously) .. they're bullet-pointed. thanks for stopping by my blog, and for your comment oh i am envious that you saw hone tuwhare perform his poetry, what a treat. denis welch wrote something in the listener after he died when he mentioned the same thing - voice like velvet.. love your e. e. cummings quote too. hope you don't mind a new follower! x

  4. I have both! Lists & lists & lists for everything.... & piles. Of stuff. Everywhere. maybe one day one side of me will win. Visiting via The Rewind x

  5. Thanks for Rewinding! I love seeing the huge variety of postings that MultipleMums prompting draws out of us all. Georgi and Charis: Lovely to meet some new folk!

  6. The first thing on my list is to make a list. I never get around to it.

    Cranky Old Man - rewind

  7. Oh I try to list, but mostly fail. Especially at work. I list and the list grows and only very rarely will the list get shorter because new items keep being added. And that's just demoralising. So no more lists!

    I could try piling people up...

  8. Love it! And now I must admit that I do both lists and piles, which makes me the world's most organised disorganised person.

    Visiting from the Rewind.

  9. Tenille: I'm LOL with a picture of people piled high! it is so how I feel about family life. They all clunk around the place in a big pile, sometimes literally, and they all have needs I try to work out how to attend to. Ha! I'm sure I'll see them in piles in my mind's eye now!

  10. @ Allison: An organised disorganised person. Beautiful! that's a more rounded way to look at it all.I think we bewilder the world with that combination of traits. Let's keep them all guessing!


Howdy! Join in the conversation. Lots of voices and perspectives make for a lively chat! Registered and Protected